How can a husband love his wife to the point of madness?
An interview with an old woman
Who spent fifty years with her husband in peace and happiness.
🍀 The woman was asked what the secret to this peaceful fifty-year life was?
Was she very skilled at cooking?
Or is her beauty the reason?
Or is it because of having lots of children, or is there something else?
🍀 The old woman replied: The foundation of a peaceful married life, after the grace of Allah, is in the hands of the woman. If a woman wants, she can make her home a paradise, and if she wants, she can make it the opposite, that is, hell.
Don't mention wealth in this regard,
There are many wealthy women whose lives are miserable, and their husbands run away from them.
Children are also not the reason for a happy married life. There are many women who have dozens of children, yet they are deprived of their husband's love, and it even leads to divorce.
Many women are skilled at cooking, they cook all day long, but they still complain about their husband's mistreatment.
🍀 The female journalist who was interviewing was very surprised, she asked:
Then what is the secret to this prosperous life?
🍀 The old woman replied: When my husband is extremely angry, I resort to silence, but even in this silence, there is respect. I bow my head in regret.
On such occasions, some women become silent, but it includes an element of mockery, which should be avoided. A wise man immediately recognizes it.
🍀 The correspondent asked: Why don't you leave the room on such occasions?
🍀 The old woman replied: No, doing so will make the husband feel that you are running away from him and don't even want to listen to him.
On such occasions, one should remain silent and not oppose any of his words until he calms down.
🍀 When the husband calms down to some extent, I say:
Are you finished talking?
Then I leave the room
Because the husband is tired of talking and now needs some rest after shouting and screaming.
I leave the room and get busy with my usual work.
🍀 The female journalist asked: What do you do after that? Do you adopt the style of stopping talking? Don't you talk for a week or two?
🍀 The old woman replied: No!
One should always avoid this bad habit,
It is a double-edged sword,
When you don't talk to your husband for a week at a time when he needs you to reconcile, he will get used to this situation, and then this thing will grow into a dangerous kind of hatred.
🍀 The journalist asked: Then what do you do?
🍀 The old woman said:
After two or three hours, I take a glass of juice or a cup of coffee to my husband and say in a loving manner: Please drink it.
In reality, that is what the husband needs.
Then I start talking to him in a normal way.
He asks if I am angry with him?
I say: No.
After that, he apologizes for his harsh words and starts saying beautiful things.
The interviewing woman asked: And you accept his words?
🍀 The old woman said: Of course, I am not a novice, I have complete confidence in myself.
Do you want me to believe everything my husband says when he is angry and not believe anything he says when he is calm?
The female journalist asked: And your self-respect?
🍀 The old woman said:
First of all, my self-respect is only there
When my husband is pleased with me
And our married life is peaceful
Secondly, there is no such thing as self-respect between husband and wife
When a man and a woman are each other's garments, then what kind of self-respect??