The reality of some relationships is understood when you experience them, otherwise, from a distance, you only see flaws. I often used to resent why men are given superiority over women? A
pang would rise in my heart, why only "men"?
In today's era, where a war for equality between men and women is raging, there is a clamor of "feminism," and a campaign is underway on social media to elevate men and remove women from their homes—these things were somehow affecting me too. The main reason for this was a lack of knowledge and ignorance of Allah's wisdom hidden behind the laws of Sharia. It was beyond comprehension why men are always standing in the front row in every matter?
Countless innocent and less knowledgeable girls like me fall prey to this propaganda and scatter their thoughts. To the extent that this poison affects them so much that if a woman earns a few pennies, she starts saying: "I don't need a man, nor do I want to get married and be someone's slave."
Come! Let me tell you what a man is. When we are traveling, he walks along as an imperceptible protector. Despite carrying the heaviest luggage, he tries to keep my hands empty and let me walk with him like a queen, while he himself is burdened. He walks ahead to pave the way and make every obstacle easier before I reach it.
He is such a personality who himself may be seen in old clothes, but he is ready to buy every new design that comes into the market for the women of the house.
I had a complaint against my husband that he often stays out of the house late at night, citing the reason as "being with friends." I angrily decided to check on him today, but suddenly a voice silenced me. My father-in-law was standing outside my room, saying to someone: "There has been a sudden call from a patient, and he (the husband) has gone to the hospital; these days, he has to go at night in emergencies."
Tears welled up in my eyes. This was the person who was sacrificing his sleep and quietly providing the comforts of my life. I wanted to clean his shoes, which are worn on those feet to take on the hardships of my life, and I saw that his own shoes were torn. The same person who was talking about getting me "branded" makeup last night had no concern for himself.
Perhaps that is why the Holy Prophet ﷺ said that if it were permissible to prostrate to anyone other than Allah, I would have ordered a woman to prostrate to her husband.
Women are emotional and often make hasty decisions. They have a great capacity to endure oppression, but sometimes their endurance gives way, and they become ungrateful. But the truth is that the man we consider our competitor is actually the real fortress of our peace.
Allah has made man "Qawwam" (protector and maintainer) and placed a burden on him; He has given him the responsibility of protection, not a badge of superiority. A woman's real victory is not in competing with a man, but in forming a family with him where gratitude and mutual respect prevail.
From the pen of Zaa-Sheikh