After a love marriage, the situation is something like this:
The person who has a love marriage and later becomes aware of some new habits, gets confused.
A girl is wearing very nice clothes, applying excellent perfume, and wearing makeup.
The boy likes her, and they get married.
After the marriage, when the wife asks for the same clothes, perfumes, and makeup, he realizes the truth
that all this was not free; it used to come from her father's money, now it will come from the husband's pocket.
Before marriage, the well-dressed girl was visible for a few hours in college or the office.
After marriage, she is seen first thing in the morning, without brushing her teeth, without a hairstyle, and in wrinkled clothes."
So....
All pleasant thoughts vanish.
Similarly, the skill of using a knife and fork while eating fast food or Chinese on a date, the refined use of a napkin, and sipping a drink, all seem beautiful.
But after marriage, when the same girl sits with you at the dining table and eats lentils, spinach, okra, and zucchini with bread, pours lentils over rice and breaks off a piece of pickle with her finger, and clears the used dishes, the same girl does not seem so beautiful.
The same girl, before marriage, when she discusses her household matters with the boy,
complains about her sister-in-law, friend, or siblings, the boy feels proud that he has been considered trustworthy and also opinionated.
But when the same girl, after marriage, tells her esteemed husband the story of her sister-in-law, mother-in-law, brother-in-law, elder brother-in-law, or sister-in-law's wife, the esteemed husband gets annoyed and avoids giving an opinion,
rather
in extreme situations, he also treats his wife well.
Now the same girl will also yawn and burp.
She will also scratch her head.
The girl is the same, the boy is also the same. It's just that emotions and priorities change with the change in objective circumstances.
If the boy was not expecting all this, then in fact he was not desiring marriage, but a fool's paradise.
Similarly, if the girl was also dreaming of swinging in a cradle of dreamy flowers, then she was also the chief of fools.
Whether it is a love marriage or a traditional one,
a relationship works when expectations are low and tolerance is high.
Otherwise, the paradise of dreams soon turns into a world of questions.
True love is that which goes beyond decorated evenings,
and also accepts scattered mornings.
Ayesha ❤