If the boy is not religious, so what? At least he is wealthy, right?

By Khama Bakaf Muhammad Aadil Arariavi

Often, these words are heard when arranging a girl's marriage. Is it really true that wealth alone guarantees happiness? Can wealth be a substitute for a person's character, morals, and fear of God? A daughter's marriage is not just a ritual or a financial transaction, but entrusting a trust to someone. Daughters have delicate hearts, they dream, they desire respect and love. They are not a commodity to have their future decided based on wealth. When a girl is sent to a home where religion, morals, and humanity are not valued, then that wealth becomes meaningless. If the husband has no mercy in his heart, no gentleness in his speech, and no justice in his actions, then that home becomes a prison, not a paradise. Beating, oppression, and humiliation all arise when the fear of God leaves a person's heart.

Just think.

If a person considers his wife not as a human being but as a slave or an animal, can his wealth alone compensate for this cruelty? Will the parents be able to sleep peacefully on the day their daughter is drowning in tears?

For God's sake, do not hand over your daughters to someone solely on the basis that he is wealthy. The real wealth is character, the real power is piety, the real guarantee is the fear of God. It is always seen that people don't check if the boy is religious or not, they just look at the money, look at the car, look at the bungalow, and decide the fate of their daughter's life.

The person who fears God does not oppress people, and the one who oppresses people will have to answer to his Lord one day.

It is said that an Egyptian father was advising his daughter with great love and dignity as he was sending her off. He took his daughter's hand and said with great composure:

Daughter, we have arranged your marriage to the son of a human being. We have chosen him with the belief that he will be perfect in character, morals, and humanity. But if you ever feel that he is not a human being but has descended into brutality, and does not value your honor, dignity, and feelings, then remember that this home is still yours. Come back without hesitation. This contained the message that a daughter's honor and safety are more important than any custom or tradition. Marriage does not mean that a daughter should be forced to endure oppression in any case. If a relationship is devoid of humanity, there is no shame in returning.

Because a daughter is not a burden but honor, and honor should not be allowed to be trampled on in any case. Remember, a daughter is a blessing.

Give her to a hand that gives her respect, gives her love, gives her protection, not a hand that wounds her soul.

May Allah grant us all the ability to protect our trusts properly and save us from shame on the Day of Judgment. Amen, Lord of the Worlds.