How to establish good social conduct?
✍🏻Gul Raza Rahi Arariavi
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In today's deteriorating society, a major question is how to establish good social conduct? How to create a society where there is a beautiful blend of love, peace, respect, and culture?
We want to have a community like the Companions of the Prophet among us, a loyal friend like Siddiq, a just ruler like Umar, a symbol of modesty and generosity like Usman, and a brave person like Ali.
A warrior like Khalid bin Walid,
An interpreter like Abdullah bin Abbas, a jurist like Abdullah bin Masood, a memorizer of Hadith like Abu Hurairah,
Jurists like the Imams of the religion, great scholars of Hadith like Bukhari and Muslim, Tirmidhi and Tahawi, theologians like Hasan Basri and Abu Mansur Maturidi,
Perfect human beings like Qadir and Junaid,
Scholars with deep insight like Mujaddid Alf Thani and Shah Waliullah, Qasim and Rashid, Ashraf and Asghar, and complete individuals and perfect saints with political insight like Madani and Mahmood.
Just think!
How much are we striving for the existence of such individuals?
These people were not born just like that, but it is the result of the training of such mothers and fathers who did not consider any kind of negligence in the training of their children, sacrificed themselves, spent nights in supplication, worked day and night, and nourished them with lawful sustenance with honesty and integrity.
It is not enough to dream high, but correct interpretation and proper effort are also necessary for its true realization.
It is not that we are not trying, but people of goodwill and generous individuals are making every possible effort for it, but we are ignoring the Sharia principles and laws that should be adopted, that is why we are failing in it.
If we adopt the beautiful bouquet of Sharia that our master, the Holy Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) has given us, then we will succeed in getting the answer to our question.
Think!
How the beloved of Abdul Muttalib, the son of Abdullah, the apple of Amina's eye, alone reformed thousands and millions of people and set an example of good social conduct for the whole world.
Good social conduct is a beautiful word that is a combination of important qualities such as peace and tranquility, purity and cleanliness, chastity and innocence, modesty and purity, respect and honor, nobility and dignity, reverence and veneration, compassion and love, benevolence and sacrifice, sympathy and empathy. Good social conduct is formed by individuals who possess these qualities.
, This quality comes in individuals when every parent protects their children from bad habits by giving them good training, makes them accustomed to good qualities, alienates them from bad company and bad things, gives them lessons on reflection, awareness, social harmony, unity and agreement, patience and tolerance despite mood swings, education and culture, and presents a practical example.
Tell them!
How love can be maintained between us despite differences, how to take care of each other's dignity and self-respect. When parents teach these things to their children, the individual will be reformed by the reformation of the individual, and good social conduct will be formed by the reformation of the individuals.
We organize many gatherings under the title of reforming the society, decorate the stage, invite speakers, and there are speeches all night long, and the result appears in the form of empty mosques in the Fajr prayer.
Why don't we give proper training to our children?
Why don't parents present a practical example of their character in front of their children?
The problem starts from the time when we choose a partner for our children's marriage, we make a mockery of religious worship like marriage according to our desires, ignoring the priorities of religion and the teachings of the Messenger of Allah for the sake of pride and show off, neither the man seeks a religious woman so that the children can be religiously trained, nor the woman chooses a religious husband for herself under whose patronage their children become religious and can be molded in a religious mold.
In this regard,
The parents of men and women are not less at fault, they also ignore religious superiority in the चक्कर of high family, wealth and property, which is the basis for the training of the new generation, if the parents themselves are on the wrong path, then tell me how the generations coming under their training can set the right path, parents are like lamps for their children, children walk on the path from the same lamp, if the parents do not meet correctly, then their life chooses the wrong path, then very few are those who can correct their life later with good company.
Therefore;
We should emphasize on the reformation of the individual practically for the reformation of the society and good social conduct, make principles and rules for them, educate and train them in the light of love.
Make your sons and daughters learn the Quran, the teachings of the Messenger, make them Hafiz and Hafiza, make them Alim and Alima, Faqih and Faqiha so that religious rays keep the hearts of Muslims illuminated, teach practical love from the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him), give them the taste of worship and asceticism from childhood, pay attention to Halal and Haram, tell them what is Halal, what is Haram, what is the loss from it and what is the difference in spiritual power, lovingly stop them from wrong things and reward and praise them for right things.
Try that your children get their primary education under your supervision, parents should teach their children themselves at home, especially mothers should educate and train their children so that my child becomes a means of salvation for us in the Hereafter.
If; we will take special care of the above things, then we will not need any separate collective effort, nor will there be a need to decorate the stage in the name of rallies and processions.
May Allah Almighty grant us all the ability to act, Amen, then Amen.