The Plea of an Aging Girl Waiting for a Halal Relationship

*The Plea of an Aging Girl Waiting for a Halal Relationship*

I cried after reading this novel today, and felt a pain in my heart. O God, have mercy on these girls. Have we forgotten the teachings given by the Holy Prophet ﷺ? The Prophet of Allah said (An-Nikah min sunnati fa man raghiba an sunnati fa laysa minni au kama qala an-Nabi ﷺ). There is a pain in my heart that I felt after reading the novel.

Don't make children's lives a tool, or prolong their lives, in the wait for a good boy, or for the survival of the family's lineage, and to maintain your dominance. But today this has become a part of our society, and after pushing many girls into this quagmire, parents and all family members seem to express great joy, but remember that Islam has allowed marriage immediately after reaching puberty. If the children commit any sin, the parents will also be responsible and bear the consequences.

Now let's move towards the novel and tell me, when the girls are put in this condition, why do you object when they take a wrong step?

*The Plea of an Aging Girl Sitting in Wait for a Halal Relationship*

The girl narrates:

I am currently 35 years old.

I am not married yet.

Because it is a custom in our family

that marrying outside the family is a lowly act. When the elders of the family sit together, they say with great pride that we have never married outside the family for seven generations.

I have reached the 35th year of my life.

So far, no proposal has come from within the family for me, while many proposals have come from outside the family, but it is impossible

that my parents or brothers have said yes to anyone. My inner feelings sometimes go to such an extent that I scream and shout in the nights and tell my parents with loud cries that I cannot manage, for God's sake, get me married.

Even if it is to a black, ugly thief 😭, but because of modesty and shame, I become silent. I have become a living corpse from the inside.

When I see my peers (friends) laughing and smiling with their husbands at weddings and events, a mountain of pain rises in my heart,

O God, do not give anyone such educated but ignorant parents who are ruining their children's lives to fulfill the customs and traditions of their family.

Sometimes I think of running away from home and blackening my face with someone and standing in front of my parents, saying, "Now fulfill the customs of your seven generations well." Sometimes I think

of running away from home and asking someone to make me a wife, but then I think, what will happen to me if I fall into the hands of a bad person?

Even the cleric of the mosque does not mention my pain in the Friday sermon.

*My Plea to All Officials*

O cleric, listen for a moment, when Abba Huzoor and Amma are sleeping in one room at night, and the brothers are resting with their sisters-in-law in their respective rooms, only I know what I go through.

O ruler of the time!

You also listen, in the time of Farooq-e-Azam, when a woman recited these verses with pain at night, the meaning of which was,

(If there was no fear of God and the fear of giving an account on the Day of Judgment, there would be a stir in the corners of this bed tonight)

(Meaning I would be blackening my face with someone)

When Farooq-e-Azam heard the verses, he was shaken, and issued an order in the name of every husband that no husband should stay away from his wife for more than three months.

O ruler of the time,

O my Abba Huzoor,

O Mufti-e-Azam of my country,

O Imam Sahib of my neighborhood mosque,

O Peer Sahib of my city, in whose hands should I seek my blood?

Who will understand my pain?

I have spent 35 years of my life,

but my Abba still has the same refrain that he will never marry his daughter outside the family.

*O Allah, You are a Witness*

Indeed, You sent many good proposals for me, but my family rejected those proposals themselves. Now, after a few years, my Abba will hold the rosary and say that the girl's fate was like this.

O people:

Tell me, if someone doesn't eat prepared food and says that it was in fate, is he mad or wise?

Will Allah Pak put morsels in the mouth?

Similarly, keeping this example in mind, think that Allah sent good proposals for me and many others like me, but the parents or some of them rejected them themselves, and now they keep saying that it was something in fate.

For God's sake, have mercy on your daughters.

I have often seen disabled children in people's homes who are born as a result of marriage within the family.

Refrain from such customs which

have nothing to do with our Islam.

*Some Questions to the Fools Who Chant the Family Mantra*

(1) Show me anywhere in the entire Quran and Hadith that Allah and His Messenger have said about the family or nation that marriage in the family is obligatory?

(2) The Prophet of Allah (peace be upon him) has ordered marriage after reaching puberty. The question is, do you know more or Allah and the Prophet of Allah?

(3) Allah Almighty says in the Holy Quran (Innama al-mu'minuna ikhwah) The believers are brothers to each other, so how can you call a Muslim a non-relative?

(4) The meaning of a verse (We have divided you into nations and tribes so that you may recognize each other, and the most honorable in the sight of Allah are the righteous) So who are you to call someone superior or inferior on the basis of nation?

(5) If someone becomes proud of their nation and lineage and considers the rest of the nations to be inferior, then read the sermon given on the occasion of Hajjat-ul-Wida and know what is the status of you and your nation in the sight of Allah and His Messenger.

I will be apologetic if anyone feels bad, and there is no exaggeration in it, but I have translated the same novel, but whatever I like, I write it down only so that there may be improvement within the nation.

✍️Mutalim Al-Jamia Al-Ashrafia ✍️