Invitation: A Terrible Debt:

Nowadays, at weddings in our society, relatives from the family come, eat food, and then give "Neota" (money). This is written down, stating that so-and-so gave this much money, and so-and-so gave that much money. And when their wedding takes place, the copy is consulted and the money is returned, sometimes even more than what was given.

Some people call this cooperation, but it is not cooperation, it is a terrible kind of debt that must be repaid. The meaning of cooperation would be that someone gave something, considering it a good deed, cooperated, and forgot about it. Now, even after the Walima of a person who is well-off, people are sitting outside with a copy, which shows that its basis is not cooperation. 

🔹 A Just and Civilized Method of Cooperation:

If you are well-off and want to cooperate, and the person whose daughter or son is getting married is poor and a relative of yours, then you should go and secretly give them cash according to their needs, or buy them clothes, etc.

 (✍🏼: Waaz-o-Nasihat Volume: 6, by Mutakallim-e-Islam Maulana Muhammad Ilyas Ghumman Hafizahullah)