*The autonomy of children, the silence of parents, and the funeral of daughters' dreams*

When the doors of earning open in the house and sons stand on their own feet, this moment is considered a pleasant change, but often this very moment becomes the killer of peace in homes and the strangler of parents' dignity. Those sons, whom parents once nurtured by giving the last morsel from their laps, now become so proud of their earnings that parents have to wrap themselves in the shroud of self-respect to reach their door. Those parents who once used to take their children to the market holding their fingers, now hesitate to ask for a few pennies for medicine. There is an ocean of pain inside the heart, but the face is covered with the rust of silence.

*And in the same house, there is another silent existence: a young daughter*

Who, due to the actions of her brothers, starts considering herself a burden on her parents, because she knows how the brothers account for every single rupee with their mother. They spend thousands on their wives without any problem, but every penny is accounted for from the mother, due to which the mother starts cursing her own existence and the existence of her daughter, which results in lack of blessings in the house, the end of joy, and disregard for good behavior. And that daughter, who sits with dreams in her eyes, who prays at every call to prayer that perhaps today some way will be created for her destiny, but when the brothers' earnings start being spent only on themselves, when the parents become hesitant to ask for money, then that daughter not only breaks her dreams, but also buries the sanctity of her femininity in the grave of silence: *She does not tell her pain to anyone, she does not complain to anyone*

She considers her need as ego, and her desire as sin, and then she learns to live, becoming insensitive, becoming silent, becoming like a stone. The world of her heart is shattered, but keeping a smile on her lips becomes her compulsion.

She participates in the happiness of her brother, she is afraid that if she asks for something, her parents' heads will be bowed and her brother will be upset.

She raises the funeral of her passions herself and silently endures the taunt of fate.

*But what kind of fate is this where the son's earnings are not in the father's control, where the mother trembles while asking the son, and where the daughter lives by burying her dreams?*

Is this the system that Islam has called the center of the family?

Is this the treatment upon which Allah's mercy descends?

Allah Almighty says:

وَآتِ ذَا الْقُرْبَىٰ حَقَّهُ

And give the relative his right.

And the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: The best of you is the one who is best to his family (Tirmidhi)

So, O my brothers: Remember, your earnings are not only yours, in it is hidden the future of your sister, the smile of your mother, and the dignity of your father. If you live only for yourself, then blessings will be lifted from your wealth, peace will disappear, and the house, which Allah has made a cradle of love, will become a glimpse of punishment due to your behavior. There is still time to improve yourself, become a support for your parents, and give your sisters the respect they deserve, lest the earnings of your hands become a burden and a source of accountability for you tomorrow.

This is a problem of society that parents should be served and their hearts should be pleased all the time. Now listen to the Sharia as well. You are educated people. You must have read in Hidayah, Quduri, Sharh Wiqayah, etc. that the son has no right in the father's property at all, meaning that he can only use it for himself and cannot use it for anyone else when the property belongs to the father. But when the property belongs to the son, the father is allowed to use it for whomever he wants, which shows that the parents have more rights over the son's or children's property than the children themselves.

For God's sake, do not make any sister a burden on parents, otherwise remember that these are among the acts of retribution, the consequences of which you may have to face in this world as well, then the field of resurrection is certain, and it is also possible that your sister's sigh may destroy your generations.

May Allah Almighty grant us the ability to understand and act. Ameen, O Lord of the Worlds, by the grace of the Holy Prophet ﷺ.

*✍️ A student of Al-Jamiatul Ashrafia ✍️*